If there is something that really affect me it is the way most people talk about rape. Since I have been myself a victim, it just really hurts to hear people around me making fun of it.
The other day at church, when the pastor was preaching he started talking about rape. Obviously, he got my attention. What he said after, really hurt me. It is not just because it was coming from the pastor but because he was spreading a false perception of rape. He was actually agreeing to whatever all the society thinks about rape. He said something like it doesn’t make sense that a victim ask herself why she got raped, when she doesn’t dress properly. To be honest, I felt betrayed and hurt, especially because I once confide to my pastor so hearing this was just awful.
I am not going to quit my church because of that but if there is something we all need to learn, We are all human, even the pastor. People that once got disappointed by a pastor, most of the time is because they were seeing him like a little god or someone perfect, but they are not. That just made me understand that I should get started pretty soon and that people need to hear the truth, especially coming from a victim. No one but a victim can understand a victim at 100%. Just like no victim goes through the same journey but they do feel the same pain.
I just understand that I might have to stand alone and I guess that there is nothing wrong with that. It makes it harder but it is a good challenge to take. So don’t you be afraid to stand for what you believe in, what you love and what you want.
If you don’t stand for yourself, no one will for you. It all starts with you.
Have a nice day yall 😍