And when you open up…

Most of the time when victims open up about their situation, they don’t get the support they deserve, especially from their family and friends. It is so sad because they don’t even try to understand the victim but they put all their energy into uderstanding how the victim got herself in that situation. It is so clear to them, if there is someone to blame it is the victim.

I have been there myself. I remember when I talked about it to my friends and family things just got worse. From some people, I never had a reaction or even a comment like it was normal or not a big deal to get raped. While others were sure that I got myself into that position, asking me how was I dressed? Why did I got drunk? Was I flurting with him? Why did I went to that party? or in other words, did I somehow made him feel like I “wanted” to get raped? It’s crazy to see people who “loves” you react that way. I had no one to support me while some did not even believe me.

So let me tell you that I BELIEVE you and I know how it feels. But if your willing to feel better, you’ll have to speak up. SPEAK UP AND STAND FOR OTHER VICTIMS GOING THROUGH THE SAME SITUATION. All I want is to help someone out because I’ve been there and now that I am able to freely share my story, I FEEL MUCH BETTER! Now, I want you to feel better too.

4 thoughts on “And when you open up…

    1. And here you are sharing it with me. You are so beautiful and strong. Sadly, victims never gets the support and love they deserve. It took me years but yes I finally understood that God needed me to share my strory. There’s a lot of people who have been abused and that are still suffering just like I was. But I got tired and felt like people needed me to feel better so they can HEAL TOO. If you ever need to talk, I am here. But remember that everything that happened to you happened for a reason: to make you stronger, so you can go and share it, so you can be a better version of yourself. You survived just like me, so let’s work together for all of those that never had a second chance to life. “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”. We have no choice but to be strong, just like we deserve Peace and Joy. God loves you and He has a plan for you, Be bless Deborah πŸ’‹β€

  1. I am truly sorry to hear you were raped. Only the ignorant could accuse you of “wanting” to be sexually assaulted. Rape, by definition, is involuntary. You have great courage and empathy to share your experience w/ other victims. <3

    1. Thank you very much, I really appreciate your concern. My journey have been hard but to be able to freely talk about it on my blog have made me feel so much better. I still got a lot to work on but I can tell you that I am doing much better. I just want to be the last hope of a victim, all I want is to be able to help someone who is going through this trauma. I am not completly healed myself but if my story can help someone out there and make them understand that they’re not alone, I will be thankful. I am sharing my story because I believe that we are stronger together and we find healing in talking about our fears, secrets, everything we would’ve have kept for ouselves. Thank you again for taking of your time to comment on my article. May God remember you and bless your heart. πŸ™πŸΎβ€

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